How My Counselling Works

Counselling works when trust is established and continually built up between us. I work hard to earn this by being open and honest with you and by listening very attentively to what life is like for you. I continuously check if I am understanding you correctly.

As we build trust and you feel more comfortable to explore and describe your inner world to me, it becomes clearer to you. With greater clarity you can then make the changes to move towards the life you want.

What happens in our first session?

From the outset my job is to listen to you accurately and attentively. Of course if you are in a crisis we will focus on that. Otherwise we will discuss why you are considering counselling and what you would like to gain from it. I will explain how I work and answer any questions you have. Then you can decide whether or not I’m the right counsellor for you.

If you want to work with me we will agree a regular weekly session time.

How long does it take?

Due to the unique nature of individual reasons for coming to counselling it is not possible to answer this question simply. It often takes about 6 sessions to establish a good working relationship, but not always. We will regularly review the process and your thoughts and feelings about counselling and if you are getting what you need from it.

Fees

£45 per full hour session

What problems can you help me with?

The short answer is that if we can both commit to building a trustworthy environment for you, then we can work with any of your problems together. These can include:

  • Trauma including childhood sexual and physical abuse
  • Concerns about drink and drug use
  • Intimate relationship problems
    • Problems with friend and family relationships
  • Feelings of depression
    • Feelings of anxiety, sadness, worry, anger
  • Feelings of loneliness and isolation
    • Low self-esteem and lack of confidence
  • Loss or bereavement
  • Work and career difficulties
  • Existential crises and suicidal thoughts

My person-centred approach to counselling means that

  • I recognise you as the expert on your own life
  • We work at your pace
  • We can explore your thoughts, ideas, beliefs, feelings, relationships and behaviour
  • We explore together. I work to earn the trust to be your companion in this exploration
  • I will be real and open with you
  • I trust your potential to grow in your own way towards the life you want

I recognise you as the expert on your own life

You know better than anyone else what you have experienced in life and what it has meant to you. Only you accurately understand your experience and it’s meaning so only you can know how to move towards the life you want.

We work at your pace

Your expertise on your own experience means that you know what you feel ready to talk about, what is most important to explore and when. You lead the process and I check my understanding.

We can explore your thoughts, ideas, beliefs, feelings, relationships and behaviour

You are free to describe anything at all in your experience which feels important.

We explore together. I work to earn the trust to be your companion in this exploration

I will commit to ‘walking by your side’ as you explore your concerns. Not in front – as the expert on your life, and not behind so that you face your concerns alone.

I will be real and open with you

My being open and real is very important. In so much of life it can be difficult to know how people feel or what they think. It is very important that I am clear about my experience of you so that you do know. For example if I don’t understand I will say so. This is an important part of the process. By you explaining to me again you can gain your own further clarity.

I trust your potential to grow in your own way towards the life you want

My training, my personal journey of being a client in counselling and my experience as a counsellor working with distressed people all show me that when we can establish the right conditions in our relationship, then people can access enormous potential for personal growth.

The only way out is through

Effective counselling often includes having to face painful and difficult things about yourself. With me alongside we can share this difficult journey towards the life you want.

Privacy Statement

If we work together I will hold your unidentifiable conact details on my passwrded phone and in my email contacts. I will delete these within 3 months of stopping working together or at your request.

I do not keep clinical notes but I do keep a written record of any ethical dilemas that I discuss with my supervisors in relation to my work with you.

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